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And… we have fabric

Friday, May 22nd, 2009

Phew. What a crazy couple of days.

When I first e-mailed my aunt about my wedding dress she was very reluctant.

In fact, the conversation went something like this:

“Hey Aunt Jan! I was wondering if it would be possible for you to make my wedding dress.”

“I can’t believe you would have that much confidence in me… I will have to look at the pattern… I’m honored you would ask, but, I made Kari’s attendants dresses and don’t know about this…” (Keep in mind that Jan lives in Indiana and I am in Texas, soon to be Nebraska)

I then convinced her she could do this, especially after I showed her this.  She felt a lot more comfortable when she realized we could do a muslin mock up (and should) before putting together the dress.

It also took a lot of  me saying “this is just a dress. don’t think about it as a ‘wedding dress’. It’s just a dress.” See, I have this very laissez-faire approach to our wedding. In the end, all that I care about it Chet and I being married. And we will be. It doesn’t matter what we’re wearing, who’s beside us, what is served at the dinner, if my hair is done by a professional, if we have centerpieces, if we 1000 cranes; it doesn’t matter. We will be married, and that is all that I care about. The end.

But, it’s been awesome working on this dress.

In total, we’ve* done 4 mock up tops. And now, she has perfected the top, and got the size(s)** right and fitting. Today, she added the skirt to it.. and it’s amazing!! Oh, I am so excited about this, and know that it was the absolute right thing to do.

So, this evening, we picked up her daughter for a girls night and made our way to the fabric store. I picked out the material we’re going to use, the lace we’ll use to decorate, and everything else.

Total? $130.00

Yeah, that’s right. That is my wedding dress, which cost me $130.00. How amazing is that? And the best part is that we’ve designed it so that I can wear it again; it doesn’t scream “I AM A WEDDING DRESS!!!!”.

Now,  you want pictures, right?

Well, too bad. I’m going to keep the dress a secret from Chet. I’ve wrestled with this idea, of whether to do it or not, but I think I’m going too. I think it’ll be fun to surprise him with it’s beautiful-ness on our wedding day. So there.

However,if you would like to see pictures (and promise not to tell Chet) I will send them to you. E-mail me at nmlozano {at} gmail {dot} com. But, since I know you’re dying for a pciture, here’s one:

My future in-laws. Chet’s in the tie, Sissi is next to me, Reid is behind me and Chet’s brothers are on the end

My family.  My aunt (who’s making the dress) is behind my mom in the tan dress. Charlotte, my dear, dear friend is next to Jan in the back.

All from my graduation!!

*Please know that when I say “we” I mean, she. I haven’t done a dang thing except keep her company.
**Those effing sizes are bs. According to them, I range in size from 16 to 28. Fo’ real.

Flowers, Catering and the end of my undergraduate life

Thursday, May 14th, 2009

Currently, there is a lot going on. But, it’s not that bad unless I think about it, so I choose not too. That’s okay, right?

First topic of the post: Flowers.
These are still a bit up in the air. I’m not really into flowers. They make me sneeze and cost  a LOT of money. And, like everything else, we’re planning on DIYing the flowers, just because it helps cut the cost down some. Since we were going to handle it ourselves, I had considered scrounging the craft stores for pretty silk flowers that look would good in the center of the table(s). And then, like with everything, I started thinking about having to cut the wire stems and shape them and… my head began to hurt.

But, eureka!  Sometime this week, I found this post by A Backyard Wedding. I can’t remember how I found it, and I don’t really care, at all. I’m just stoked I did.

“Nicole, why on earth are you ‘stoked’ you found that post?”, you may be wondering. Because, dear friend, I get all of my inspiration from blogs. And her wedding = uh-mazing! It was a backyard shin-dig (which you might have guessed), the kind that I would love to have if we had a house, or knew someone who had a house big enough.

But! Within this little treasure of a post, she provides links to The Flower Exchange and to a video on how to create bouquets. Now, the flower exchange seems pretty awesome, and legit. Both of which are good things. She said her experience was good with them and the flowers lasted forever. Yay!!

Centerpiece inspiration:

So, I began browsing. And they have these wedding combos. For example, the one I think we may go with is this:

-100 Roses (your choice)
- 60 stems gerberas (any color choice)
- 10 stems of hydrangeas (only blue or white available)
- 5 Salal Tips
- 5 Bear grass
30 bunches per box

We’re still trying to figure out the “bunches per box thing”. I’ve sent them an e-mail and am waiting for a reply. But! I think this is awesome.

They also sell Baby’s Breath for $10.00 for a bunch of 6 or sixty stems. For this, of course:

via: Once Wed

Next up: Catering
ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH. That’s about all I can say about that. Actually, it’s not.

Since we’re going through the university, we have to use the university catering. No problem. When they want to, they’re food is delicious. Absolutely delicious. We’re not talking about any kind of cafeteria-food-that-I-have-to-eat-as-a-freshman-which-makes-me-gain-45lbs*. No, this is good stuff.

If you could ever meet with them. No joke, we’ve been trying to meet with the catering director since March. She canceled our date in March because she was too busy. She said she would call in a week, and never called. So we called her in April. Set up an appointment, she was too busy, canceled. Said she would call. Never called. (See a pattern evolving?)

So, I called her yesterday and said look, “I’m graduating, we’re leaving, we can’t be back before July, and then on August 10th, we’re leaving the state and won’t be back until November… for the wedding.” Her response? Oh, well, let’s meet at 10. Great! Perfect.

Not even an hour later, she calls us back, and guess what?! She’s too busy. But, she can squeeze us in between 4:30 and 5 but closer to 5 because she has another meeting. Are you effing kidding me?

She then asks us if we’ve looked at their menu online. Online?! (Side note: they have a fantastic option to order your food online and then they verify it and whatever, it’s great, when you’re planning student organization stuff. Or minor events.) My response, which was a bit curt, was along the lines of: this is a wedding, we need to discuss what we want, alcohol service, set up, our cake service, etc. I cannot do that online, we have to talk to you, in person; is there anyone else we could meet with? She said that it had to be her because she didn’t know who would be there in November.

So then she gets all nosy and asks why we can’t be back in Huntsville before July, don’t we live here. And I explained that we do, but we’re graduating and moving, so it’s not possible. And then she said well, you’re moving back in August? NO!!!!!!!! WE’RE MOVING OUT OF STATE! Oh, well why are you having your wedding here.

I was speechless. But, I persevered. However, we’re not meeting with her until July I guess. Whatever. Chet suggested calling someone we know who is higher up and having her tell us what to do. Despite how annoyed I am with the catering director, I don’t want to get her into trouble, which that very well may. Any suggestions?

Edit: she called us back and said that we could meet Friday or Saturday. Really? She made it sound like it was so difficult for her to meet with us, and she’s such a martyr for doing it with commencement. Yeah, well lady, I’m graduating with family coming in. I can’t meet with you. Perhaps we should have done this in April, no?

Finally: Life as it it.
Y’all can skip this part. It’s just me being sentimental, a bit. No really, just go comment and don’t worry about this part.

I’m officially done with my undergraduate work…. and I don’t know how I feel about it. I’ve been waiting for this moment for about 4 years, but now that it’s here, I’m nervous! I don’t know what’s coming up next or what to expect. I am going to miss my friend severely. It’s going to be so strange to have to write a new script for my life, and I don’t know how ready I am to do it. I try not to get all sentimental, but still… oi vey.

And besides that, I’m packing, and dealing with moving and everything. We’ve just about sold all that we wanted to sell, which I am so happy about. Now we have to put our lives from the past three years into carefully marked boxes so they can being their journey to my parent’s home and then Lincoln. It’s all just very, very weird. How do y’all cope with big life changes?

*Yes, it really did. Bastards.

Hi… my name is Nicole

Friday, May 8th, 2009

…and I have a dress problem*

See, it all started when I saw this image from Julie Ke and Jonny’s wedding:

Tell me, is this not beautiful? I fell in love with her dress… and then I saw the bridesmaids dresses.

All pictures can be found here (including pictures of her gorgeous wedding!)

Okay, seriously. Aren’t these gorgeous? I love them. But there are two issues:
1.) I do not have bridesmaids that I can tell to purchase these dresses thank-you-very-much
2.) I can’t find them anywhere! Seriously. I have looked and looked and looked. Which is what has created my problem.

So, I thought that I would share with you pictures of dresses I like and would probably order my ‘maids to where, if I had had formal ones.


This is nothing like the ones above, but it’s still purrrty.

Now we’re talking. Isn’t this and this gorgeous?And all for less than $100!


This one is my favorite. I would love to have all of my girls dressed in it…
(all dresses [and more!] can be found at: Nordstroms)

See, here’s my problem with telling my girls that they have to wear certain things. One reason is because I can’t justify asking my wonderful college friends to spend about $100 on a dress they may or may not wear again. The second is because I don’t know if they will be hanging out with us during the ceremony. And if they aren’t.. well, why tell them they have to wear something?

But, my inner control freak is screaming “tell them what to wear! you must be in control! this is not right!!” But, I tell her to shut up, drink a martini and let go.

Because in the end, Chet and I will be married, and that is what really matters.

(Sidenote: I am telling them to all wear black cocktail dresses though. hehe. My justification is the fact that they can choose something that they , and as a bonus, they will wear it again.)

*please note: as a counselor to be, I am not mocking any type of AA, NA or Al-Anon traditions.

Dress Conundrum

Tuesday, March 24th, 2009

So much is going on. The wedding stuff was really quiet, and then all of a sudden… it just took off!

Let’s start with dresses.

On Saturday, two members of my bridal brigade went with me to look at dresses! We went to this cute little bridal shop (with some odd employees) and tried stuff on.

bad-dress bad-dress-2

See these? This was like a $300 prom dress. Jessi (Origami Goddess, the one making the 1000 cranes) had to try it on, and might I say, she looked fabulous! I think I shall make these my bridesmaid dresses.

Okay, for real though. A dress. For me. For the wedding. I suppose I should probably get on that. We found one that I really like:

mori-lee mori-lee-2

That’s not me, by the way. That would be my dear friend Lindsey (aka, hometown support-ress). Doesn’t she look beautiful?! I can’t fit into their god awful sizes. For example, this was supposed to be a size 14. She had to suck in and squeeze to fit.

Anyway, it’s pretty! It’s actually a bridesmaid dress, which  helps make the cost pretty much amazing. I love how it looks; I like the lacy-ness of it, and the detail. I like that the bottom of it (which you can’t really see here) has little crystals attached.

However, before I make my final decision, there are two other dresses that I want to see:

The Vivian Leigh from Siri

I did try this one on. And it’s super cute. And I could definitely wear it again, which is a plus. And look at that back! I love it! And the cut shoulders… ah love. However, it’s a little bit more than I had planned on spending.

The Paige by Jenny Yoo

I haven’t seen this one in person yet. I’m actually not sure how I found it, but I do like it. I just want to see it. Again,I could wear it after the wedding (which is awesome!!)

And then, I started looking online…at I really like that website, fyi.

etsy-dress_2 etsy-dress_1

The first one just looks super comfortable. It’s ALOT more than I want to spend, but it just looks amazing. I love the flowy-ness of it. And pairing it with an adorable jacket… I love it. Chet doesn’t.

The second one is über cute too. It’s shorter then I would want, but in the same price range as all the others. Since it’s etsy, the people are willing to work with you. I also like the fact that it’s made by someone here (as in America), and they’re hand sewn by the person I order it from.

Ah, decisions.

So then, I spoke with Angie about looking for a dress. And I told her how Chet and I are wanting to keep things locally done by people we love and care for. For example, a cake by my boss, a friend doing the em-cee-ing, friends doing the music for the wedding, (probably) a dear friend officiating. With that said, we talked about how our tailor won’t make wedding dresses, because they are just so blasted difficult to do. But, when I told her what I was wanting she said “well! ask so and so to do it! she’s a great seamstress, and something simple like that, I’m sure she’d do it!”.

Ah, be still my heart.

I love the idea of keeping things local — whether that may be in Huntsville or Austin.

One Down…

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009

I was going to talk about our venue, which we have in fact decided upon and even put down a deposit. However, Chet is a much better story teller than I, and as such, I commissioned him to work on that. He’s has the first one done. You can read it here.

We ordered our Save the Dates. As you may remember, (or I may have not even said) we were going to e-mail them out. It was cost effective and really non-time consuming at all. And I was thrilled by this. So was Chet.


My parents were not. They argued that for their generation e-mail is not a communication means like it is for mine. E-mail is meant to be for informal or business use only. Not for something like a wedding. Alright…

We ordered postcards from Snapfish and they were slightly cost effective, will be time consuming, but you make concessions.
(click to enlarge)

So there they are. Our Save the Dates. How did they come about you ask? I’ll tell you! First, we love the photobooth idea. I’ve always thought that was a cool idea, even before it was cool to have (so we all say right?). Then we saw these great pictures:

here and here and here.

And we were in love. So, we put our own spin on it. And that’s what we got.

Quick funny story: We were ordering them and we were about order 150 so that we would have extras in case errors occurred. And then we were doing math and yadda yadda. And then I had a ‘duh’ moment. I was not about to mail out individual save the dates to every person who we were inviting… with that thought, I realized we were about to order about 60 more than we needed. Yup. I love my logic.