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Ponderings on the event

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

I haven’t spoken much about the wedding, as I’m sure you’ve noticed. This is because I’m still trying to catalog all of my feelings from it. Some feelings good, some feelings bad, and some feelings in between.

This is the reason why my posts have been scattered and DIY and 365 rather than anything of meat. But don’t worry. I’m coming out of my proverbial closet, and I’m going to be honest about all of the wedding stuff —  the great, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Hope you’re ready.

Wedding Weather, take 2

Friday, November 20th, 2009

Dear Wedding Gods,

It’s tomorrow. Oh geez. I have tons of things to ask you, but I’m going to narrow it down to one.  Please just stop the rain for tomorrow. K?Thanks. See, we’ve talked about this once, but I just wanted to reiterate my opinions.

weather

I know, I know. It will be beautiful no matter what and blah blah blah, but I really really want it to not rain at all. Especially while we’re trying to set up. I know, it’s autumn in east Texas and it’s a lot to ask for, but it would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

When is it okay?

Monday, November 9th, 2009

I have a question.

When is it okay to become a bridezilla? Is it ever?


via: The Durtty Bride

I feel like I have stayed incredibly up beat during the planning process. I’ve had two maids of honors step down, familial issues on both sides, a dress that disappeared then re-appeared only to not fit me at all, mailing issues, money issues and on top of all that I moved to Lincoln Nebraska and began a Doctoral program.

I have maintained a great attitude through it all. I really have, don’t judge me.

But now, now I feel like perhaps I should be a bridezilla.

Why? Because our pastor has recently called us to let us know that he can’t do our wedding.

Honestly, I feel bad for the guy. He’s taken over as a head pastor, and as such has stepped into a messy problem. And the church is telling him he can’t leave for a Saturday to do our wedding.

Have I mentioned that we are 12 days out? I didn’t? We are.

So, my question comes in because I feel like a doormat. I don’t know what else can go wrong. Well, I do, and it probably will go wrong. I suppose what I really don’t know is how to handle it anymore.

A friend of mine was just in a wedding the past weekend and she recounted to me the horror that this bride was. Ignoring birthdays, not providing enough food, being a jerk for the most part.

But her dress showed up. She didn’t have anyone step down. Her pastor was there.

I get that this is an incredibly irrational train of thought, but I would be lying to say it’s not there and present in my head.

So, would it be okay for me to fly off the handle yet?

Just as a side note, another friend of ours, in response to this newest conundrum said: “Why can’t you believe it? It is exactly the sort of thing that would happen to you guys.”

Touché my dear friend, touché.

Sleeves? No sleeves? Who effing cares?

Saturday, October 31st, 2009

Apparently, Ivanka Trump got married last weekend. She wore lace sleeves with her wedding gown. And her hair down. This has the wedding world in a tizzy and brides returning wedding dresses that are strapless in favor of dresses that have sleeves.

Okay, that’s a little bit intense. But now people like Vera Wang and NYT Fashion critic Cathy Horyn are criticizing strapless dress wearing brides. New York Magazine has an opinion too.

Blogs are weighing in. And the comments are screaming I WANT A DRESS WITH SLEEVES!!!

This bothers me. As if brides don’t have enough pressure to look absolutelyperfectfortheirbigday, we are now telling them that they HAVE TO HAVE sleeves. And how dare you consider wearing a sleeveless dress.

I thought Ms. Trump looked sensational in her lace dress. It was the sleeves. We’re so used to seeing brides in strapless dresses that Ms. Trump’s gown made a fresh statement. Maybe she’ll have an influence on brides.

I’m glad she looked stunning. I’m so glad that look worked for her. I don’t think it works for everyone. Just like strapless doesn’t work for everyone. I don’t think you need to be worrying about what other brides wear becuase they are comfortable. I don’t need your influence.

Ugh.

For the record, her dress was quite pretty.

See?

As a side note: it’s being passed around that the sleeves were added becuase the happy couple was married in an Jewish Orthodox tradition. In which you have to have sleeves. There is no choice.

Wedding Weather

Monday, October 19th, 2009

wedding weather.

Here’s to hoping we get the 64 high. I’d be okay with it being cold that night.

Just please, Wedding Gods. Let it be a lovely day with no rain.