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Carry on my wayward son…

Chet — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:27:03 +0000

The infamous week of moving is upon us. Nicole and her parents will saddle up and ride off into the great Nebraskan cornfields this Thursday. Thus leaving me in Austin to fend for my myself.
I’ve been dreading this move since the beginning of summer; not because we’re leaving our home of, well forever, but because Colie and I will be apart for three weeks.
We like to tell ourselves that it will be good for us and show strength in our relationship, but it still sucks! We have made a lot of progress in the wedding planning. We’re down to the gritty issues that neither of us seem to be able to remember until we’re laying in bed.
I think we will be moving our rehearsal dinner to The Stardust Room, almost no one is thrilled about our House of Blues choice. I think we will both be satisfied by that since we have spent a great deal of time and money in our awesome hometown bar.
That’s all I got for you today. Any thoughts out there?

Appreciation

Chet — Fri, 01 May 2009 21:49:03 +0000

I don’t think Nicole knows how much I appreciate her. I’m rather slothful when it comes to wedding planning, leaving a rather cumbersome burden upon her. However, I need her to know that I do care, I just don’t come up with the same ideas she does.

This I think is a combination of two things. I think in a world of functional aesthetics, and from my experiences so far wedding decorations almost never serve a function beyond looking pretty.

Pretty is not a negative aspect, it’s just not my specialty. Nicole has mentioned to me before that I often just agree with any idea she throws at me, and that’s really because I like all of them. Not because I’m lazy and don’t care.

In short my love, I do love you, and I do appreciate everything you’re doing for this wedding!

Love, Chetimus

That Which We Call a Rose…

Chet — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 21:42:16 +0000

Colie and I have discussed the issue of the almighty name change in the past. It’s never been an issue with me, because originally she said that when she was married she’d change her name, or hyphenate it, but continue to use her maiden name in her professional life. This always made me happy and thrilled me to death. I had no problem with her using the name in her practice, since that is what will be inscribed upon her Ph.D.

However she has recently decided, much to my disdain, that she’d rather keep her name. She has very strong reasons for this, but I don’t know if she understands how much it means to me for her to take on my name. I know it’s based out of tradition, and neither of us are really traditional in any manner at all, but I want her to take my name. It’s like a gift that I’m giving her, the ultimate “welcome to my life” package. Not to mention how happy it makes me to see her sign my name as part of hers now in her notebooks.

I want to be able to say in the very near future, “Hi, this is my wife Nicole Marie Gassett,” or Lozano-Gassett…or something. I love the girl, but this is something near and dear to me, as her name is to her. I don’t know how I’m going to convince her to take my name as part of hers, but I’m working on it. I just need her to understand how much it means to me.

What do you all think?

Who Knew?

Chet — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 21:38:28 +0000

Have any of you ever tried to create a list of only your closest friends and family? The first task is to decide who exactly falls into that category. Which is a challenge within itself. I think I decided that my closest family would only include my parents, siblings, grandmother, aunts, uncles, and first cousins. A pretty reasonable response I think. When writing down who I consider to be my best friends, it was decided that if I couldn’t think of them without the use of Facebook, then we’re probably not close friends.

Throughout the creation of our guest list we realized that we had a lot of people in our lives that just weren’t going to make the cut. As hurtful as this may seem to some of them, it’s necessary for our budget and our goals. We’ve set an invitation list maximum that will allow us to keep our wedding to a very intimate affair.

I believe we’ve created a very nice rough list, and it will be refined in the next week. You all need to be looking out for save the dates soon! We will also have some online tools for you to help us out.

Thanks and Good Night!

By the way, it took me a little while, and a few different ideas, but I have finally coded a method into our guest book that will keep spambots at bay. Hopefully we will no longer have to worry about any dirty, smutty comments!

Unsure about…everything

Chet — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:33:49 +0000

I’m almost positive that Nicole thinks I’m uninterested in planning our wedding, and just so you all know that not true. There are a lot of decisions that go into a wedding. Most people probably already know that, but I never fully realized what all this would encompass until it was upon us. I like discussing our wedding plans with each other, but sometimes it’s so stressful. Nicole probably has a lot of the same stress levels in her head, but she’s much cooler about it than me. She’s looking at budget planning, venues, foods, colors, flowers dresses, and I can’t get myself to focus on who I want to officiate the ceremony. I’ve at least only have two choices to choose between. When looking at all of the stuff that Nicole has taken upon herself I’m pretty lame.

I think my problem comes in that I’m too laidback. I ask myself questions to try to figure out what I want out of our wedding, but…well look for yourself.

Where do I want to get married? Texas, Trees, Pretty, Meaningful to Colie and I.

What kind of food do I want? The delicious variety.

What do I want to be in the ceremony? erm…?

And it basically does down like that. Does anyone out there have any advice on how to make up my mind. I mentioned in a previous blog that I wanted to sit down with Nicole to discuss our goals, but when she tried to do this I crapped out. What is she going to do with me?

We’ll see I suppose.