Colie and I have discussed the issue of the almighty name change in the past. It’s never been an issue with me, because originally she said that when she was married she’d change her name, or hyphenate it, but continue to use her maiden name in her professional life. This always made me happy and thrilled me to death. I had no problem with her using the name in her practice, since that is what will be inscribed upon her Ph.D.
However she has recently decided, much to my disdain, that she’d rather keep her name. She has very strong reasons for this, but I don’t know if she understands how much it means to me for her to take on my name. I know it’s based out of tradition, and neither of us are really traditional in any manner at all, but I want her to take my name. It’s like a gift that I’m giving her, the ultimate “welcome to my life” package. Not to mention how happy it makes me to see her sign my name as part of hers now in her notebooks.
I want to be able to say in the very near future, “Hi, this is my wife Nicole Marie Gassett,” or Lozano-Gassett…or something. I love the girl, but this is something near and dear to me, as her name is to her. I don’t know how I’m going to convince her to take my name as part of hers, but I’m working on it. I just need her to understand how much it means to me.
What do you all think?